The Realities of Newborn Life: Surviving the First Weeks as a New Mom

The first few weeks with a newborn can be challenging, but they are part of a beautiful journey. Here, I’m sharing some of the difficulties you might face and offering suggestions to help you navigate through them. Remember, the challenges are constant, so here’s what you need to keep in mind.

1) Embrace the New You.
After delivery, many moms continue to look like they’re in the final stages of pregnancy, and the belly may not shrink as quickly as you expect. Your body may feel out of shape, and hair loss can be frustrating. Don’t criticize yourself or feel ashamed — this process takes time. Keep in mind the miracle you’ve brought into the world, and remember, your body will return to its original form. Be patient, exercise, go for walks, and pay attention to your diet.

2) Surviving the Zombie Phase/Sleep Deprivation.
Sleep deprivation is one of the toughest challenges for new mothers. While others may suggest syncing your sleep with the baby’s, it’s not always that simple. It feels like the alarm is going off every 2–3 hours, leaving you exhausted and possibly dealing with headaches or confusion. This is normal, though. Most new moms experience it. The best approach is to seek help, have strong support around you, use a breast pump to have milk ready, and try to rest whenever possible. Meditation can also help you stay calm. This phase lasts about 5–6 weeks before the baby starts settling into a routine.

3) Breastfeeding May Not Be Easy.
Breastfeeding can be more challenging than it appears. Many moms experience issues like latching problems, painful feedings, or low milk production. I went through all of these, but remember, it’s a relationship that develops over time. Be patient with yourself and your baby, and don’t hesitate to seek advice from a lactation consultant if needed.

4) Expect Pain and Hormonal Shifts.
Regardless of whether you had a C-section or a vaginal birth, pain is common in the first few weeks. Take care of yourself and don’t push your body too hard or criticize yourself for not being able to do everything. Seek help when you need it and focus on your well-being and your baby’s. Simple breathing exercises can help you stay calm. Keep in mind that your health today will help ensure your baby’s health tomorrow, so prioritize self-care now.

5) Your Baby Needs Time to Adjust.
Your newborn may recognize you but still see you as a stranger in the early days. Don’t expect them to stop crying as soon as you pick them up — that’s a movie scene, not reality. In the beginning, your baby’s primary needs are food and sleep, and any disruption can make them fussy. You won’t always be able to calm them with a touch, but that’s okay. It takes time. As you bond, your baby’s first smile will be your reward.

Be patient, stay positive, and surround yourself with supportive, uplifting people. Avoid negative thoughts or individuals who don’t bring you peace.

While the first few weeks are tough, they pass quickly. In the end, you’ll feel proud of how you navigated through it all.